Curses schmerses! Why sticks, stones and words do hurt the Empath. (5 min read)

Here Rachael talks about the truth behind all of our bad words, check list of how they impact us, how you may too be sending out curses and how to empower yourself long term, and protect yourself long term from them.

I regularly get people asking  me to remove curses. Unless I know the person, I tend to not get involved in the topic. Many people do not understand that sitting in their own drama, is the reason why their life is difficult. Accusations of curses tend to attract those that like a bit of drama. So I keep my inner circle close, and drama free.

I have generally found that most are issues with people sending cruddy energy out accidentally, as they are angry, to someone who is sensitive. Whether it’s been sent intentionally or unintentionally there has to be a weakness to link to in the receivers personality. E.g If someone was angry about someone else’s success, the person on the receiving end would need to either feel they didn’t deserve success or they were also angry at other people’s successes. Does that make sense?

It is called a hook; and is actually the way that a traditional curse would work.

Rarely do people send out true curses. 

For a moment, I would like to think about what the word curse or swear means in everyday language. It effectively is bad mouthing someone. If you swear, it is an oath or a promise. Against someone. In the American, this gets called a curse word. For very obvious reasons. You are sending an intent to someone which is infact permanent.

How often do you bad mouth someone, wish ill on them or hope they don’t succeed? All of this is basic, everyday, cursing. Whether you have sat down and done spell work around it is another thing. Think about how often you have unintentionally cursed someone.

When you realise you have done it, call it back in. We are all human and prone to making mistakes, loosing our tempers and getting our heads stuck up our rear ends from time to time.

What will make that curse more effective, that bad mouthing, those intense negative thoughts, will depend on many things:

• How close the relationship is; or how much everyday power someone has over someone else.

• How sensitive the receiver is; an unempowered Empath is going to be more susceptible than anyone else.

• How much influence over energy someone has; someone who is a medium or a healer, will naturally be able to work with and therefore influence, energy easier.

• How strong the personality of the individual is sending out the curse.

• Whether any active spell work has been conducted.

So every, single, one of us, needs to take responsibility for the energy we are all sending out. Every single day in some cases.

I could always tell when someone is bad mouthing me. Always! It was painful; feeling like a shaken rag doll.

Over the years this has become better, through self healing and using this visualisation. Generally I need to work out why I am feeling irritated, or annoyed by something irrationally. 

I identify with one of my more powerful dowsers, and then work with this to sit and remove the energy. It’ll take longer if it has been sent with active intent and spell work.

If feel you have had cruddy energy sent to you, sitting with the intention of removing the cruddy energy via self healing is vitally important. Then you need to work on the hook which means that it can allow itself to sit with you. It maybe self belief, people believing that you are a pushover, personal block on success etc. This will ensure you empower yourself to ensure this does not happen in future. For me that’s vitally important otherwise you’ll go round being on the receiving end your whole life. Which changes a beautiful Empath into a bitter mess.

Forgiveness is really important. Feeling into the situation and seeing how insecure in themselves they must have been to send an active spell or to bad mouth you. Is this what you expected from the person? Is this out of character? Are they in a difficult space at the moment? In which case would reaching out to them to help them actually make the situation better for both of you. We all act bizarrely in difficult circumstances; and reaching out to someone when they need it, no matter how irrationally they have been behaving towards you, is a beautiful way to transmute a situation.

However, a word of warning. If someone continually bad mouths you, continually villainises you, continually sends out spells to you, consistently sits in the same old shit, despite you trying to help them, wants to paint themselves as the victim when they are anything but; this isn’t someone you want in your life. No matter how nice they are to your face. This is someone who’s morals do not match yours and having them in your space is sending out a message to the Universe that you are someone who is happy to be a punching bag. You cannot be responsible for the journey of others. And for many Empaths, understanding that you cannot hold space for others, that it is detrimental for your health and both of your pathways, is a massive thing.  Taking a healing journey to understand that you must heal others from the perspective of the Universe, which sees which negative we must go through in order to expand our soul, is a vital for you.

I will go on in my next blog to talk about a deeper empowerment based around the new energetic system the Earth is anchoring in, which will transmute all negative energy sent to you automatically sent to you. You can use this while you go through your own healing journey.

Love as always

Rachael x