Happy New Whatever!! Alternative New Year Inspiration

We often put so much pressure on ourselves at New Year.Discover the secret of New Year and use if the whole year around!

Okay, this title makes me sound more like a moody teenager than it is meant to. Really . . . 😉 There is an inspiring message – I promise!!

I remember as a teenager being painfully aware of what a waste of time New Year was. The tickets to the same dodgy clubs were overpriced, it was always over hyped and there was always an argument in my group of friends. Always the boys by the way!

And when the clock struck twelve, there was no revelations, no sense of enlightenment; no experience which justified this big fuss. Just another hour, another minute, another second on the clock. And when I woke the next day, it was just another day.

So what makes this day so special? Do you want to know the truth? The big secret? . . . 

Here it comes . . . .

Wait for it (insert appropriate X factor music here . . .)

Nothing.

Yep. Absolutely nothing. Nada. Nought. Nowt. 

It is just another day.

So why do we think it’s going to bring about the change in our lives that we all think it does?

Intention that it does. Intent.

Being the magical, inter dimensional, pretty bloomin amazing beings we are, whenever we think about anything, we are directing energy to that thing. And we all know that the more we think positively about things, are grateful, work with love in our hearts, take joy in our lives and generally have fun, the more we will manifest. Direct your energy, your thoughts to the negative, and that’s what you’re going to get. Simple!

Especially for those of us that do energetic work, healers, mediums and the like. Our grasp of the energetic is so much more powerful than before. And something we should, automatically, be more mindful of.

So a large percentage of the planet, working on the Gregorian calendar we currently have (alternative calendar systems are available!), putting emphasis and intent on one day, one second, changing their lives, ending one phase of their life and starting a new one, is a really powerful event if you invest your energy into it.

But it’s also a really damaging thing.

It allows us to write off a whole year with a sweep of a hand. A whole year!!! We can say that was a terrible year, I want all of that to end and I want a fresh start. 

But what do we miss when we do that? 

For a start, we miss all of the good from that year. And I will bet you all the tea in China, when we are sat up inside the pearly gates going through the list of all the wonderful, awe inspiring situations that have happened in your life, let alone the last year, that the bloody amazing, beautiful, authentic experiences will outweigh anything which caused you heartache. And even the ones that caused you heartache, were pretty mindblowing too.

Just looking at myself in this last year; people would look at the fact that I nearly died in the final stages of my pregnancy, I had a premature baby, two older children and a husband that had a two hour commute each way to work, moved house, my five year autistic son had to move schools, and my very expressive, powerhouse of a three year old daughter made it very clear that changing pre-schools, house and mummy disappearing didn’t make her feel settled or safe. In the way only she can. So I could write this year off as pretty God dam awful. I could say good riddance to bad rubbish. But where would that get me? You know what? Back to square one!!

I wouldn’t have found that friends, family and community does want to help and rally round, hold space for me, when I reach out for it. I would not have seen that my son is far more capable and bloody adaptable than I give the funny little so-n-so credit for. I wouldn’t have allowed my husband to build the confidence and self belief to get a normally thankless contracting job which, still despite the commute, means he could work from home two days a week. I wouldn’t have really found friends that I can have a laugh with and who get me, I wouldn’t have started to rebuild my relationship with my husband on a whole new level I didn’t think we were capable of. And I wouldn’t have the brightest, most adorable, stoic little baby daughter that anyone could wish for. My three, now four year old, may still be the most expressive, unpredictable diva I have ever met, but I now love her even more for that; if that’s even possible. That’s a lot to miss!!!

And I wouldn’t really have had the self love, nurture and care that I need to give myself cemented into my being.

If I decided to focus on the negative, I would have cut off my fruiting friendships and any others sprouting from that. I would have nothing but a birth traumatised mother and baby. I would be cutting off the progress of my children’s personal developments and even that of my husband (having a shared destiny for the foreseeable future and all that). And being the energetic mumma that I am, I would have made a really good job of that.

Most of all I would have stopped a major development in my life. One which was much needed.

So . . . . what would be the outcome! What would I and you actually get by writing off that whole year? We would all need to start again!! Argh!! Who in their right mind feels like doing that again?

Maybe we’d get our head around our experiences a little quicker next time. But we are setting the intent that there is infact a next time. A do over. 

You know what? Sod that for a game of soldiers! All that heartache, tears, confusion and pain for nothing? I’m not buying into that.

How many of us do this? Year on year. Write off a whole year and then wonder why our lives are going around in circles. My current experience really didn’t start last year. It started at the beginning of 2017. When I laid down on the floor and allowed myself to sob my heart out over the death of a beloved pet. Our life cycles and experiences are not determined by our concept of time. They never have been and they never will be.

So why don’t you do something simple for yourself. Why don’t you not write off the whole year. Or a whole month, or whole week or even a day.

Those of you, like I, who have been to the ubiquitous ‘fat clubs’ know how damaging that attitude can be. I’ve eaten one bit of cake. Today is a failure. I may as well eat some more cake. And a fry up. And a packet of Rolos. In fact, I’ll write off the week until I go and get weighed again, and then I can feel like a complete failure as I will have put weight on. I’ll be too embarrassed to stay and talk to anyone, so I’ll leave. Stop coming. And start this cycle again in six months. We have all been there and done it. So why are we continuing to do this to ourselves?

The knowledge that every single second, every single nanosecond in fact, you are given an opportunity to ctrl, alt, delete and get rid of mindsets, behaviours, habits, emotions, situations even people, who no longer serve our highest purpose, which are restrictive to our personal growth and are toxic, is a immensely powerful piece of knowledge to have in your toolkit.

And one that I give to you now. Take that knowledge and hold onto it fiercely.

Don’t get me wrong, take this opportunity to look back, digest and understand at a higher level, as these dark nights were always meant to inspire us to do, but don’t throw the baby out with the dirty water whatever you do!!

And I haven’t even started on the fact that good and bad does not exist and we live in a dimension jam packed full of experiences which are for our own interpretation. That’s for another blog I’m sure 😉 

Love as always

Rachael x

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