Truth, it’s Power and our Responsibility. The Ego Versus the Sage. Embrace your Personal Grandmother.

Exploring themes of truth versus wisdom. And those times when using Truth is simply an excuse to passively aggressively hurt, rather than choosing to speak from a place of wisdom.

OK, so this has come up three times over the last few days, so I need to address it outwardly. 

What is true for you, is not true for me, or the lady on the corner, or the family down the street. 

Fact. 

Each of our own realities, our own truths, are totally formed from our own perspective. Some of that we may have been born with (genetic or previous life or both depending on your belief system) and much of it is formed with experience; experiences starting in the womb 

We all live in our own little worlds. I think that makes sense whether you’ve gone through a brain mapping unit studying hypnotherapy or just studied people. 

So when giving out your truth, your opinion, it comes with a great responsibility. 

How well will the person listening receive the information I’ve got to give here? Is it the right time for them to hear this? 

Is it even relevant. Are you saying it simply to express your Ego? Simply to relieve yourself of your own feelings? 

Honesty is not always given to help. It can be used as a tool to hurt. Most of us know our faults; (not that I believe anyone’s personality is truly flawed), so having this thrown into someone’s face, to achieve no other purpose than to relieve yourself is a selfish act. 

If this person is just like that, actually the question you should maybe be asking is what does this show in me? Why does this feature of their personality offend me so much? Especially when you look at the greater scheme of things and realise it really doesn’t matter. 

It comes from the same place where we sometimes feel the need to totally honest and open about our feelings, but coming at it from a place where you believe it is said with love. Telling someone you have emotional feelings for them, when they are married or in a loving relationship; you’ve just made that relationship awkward for a friend that’s made a loving commitment to someone else, and unless you’ve decided to distance yourself from that person to save your own heart, started the end of that friendship. That person’s first and foremost commitment is to the feelings of someone else, not you. Plus feelings of I should have known; guilt over accidentally leading them on. 

And the story I heard of a sister in law, struggling to have children, who’s Pastor told her to absolve herself of her sin of jealousy she must tell her sister in law how she felt about her having her third child. Having no fore thought for the impact it would have on a woman coping with a newborn. Yes, unburdened herself of her jealousy, but totally selfishly visited those instead upon someone else for them to deal with. 

These are our own emotions to deal with; not to visit upon someone else. You are helping simply yourself in terms of you, again, not dealing with an area of your life, which is no doubt shouting at you. This is not said for the Greater Good. This is in fact, a passive aggressive act. Just because you consider yourself a Spiritual person, does not mean your actions are always truly Spiritual. 

Is this something that you genuinely think is a truth that needs to be shared for the good of the other person? Maybe it does need to be shared; remember the Angels and guides will use us to help others. 

You’ll find that delivering something from a space of love, paying attention to the fact that you maybe touching on a very sensitive subject, will have a far greater impact than with anger or with an air of arrogant ‘i know better’. If you truly feel that someone needs to know something, needs their mind opening, then using it as a knife with which to cut and get your own kick from, is not going to have the effect you are claiming you are trying to achieve. 

And coming at it from an angle of love, may also have the effect of helping your higher good. Opening a dialogue instead of an argument, which may in fact open your understanding and expand your reality, your truth. You may have been the one that needed to hear another’s truth, the reality of someone else’s life. 

Building bridges of understanding and drawing us together is key. 

Of course, there are the harsh truths which people need to be called out on; these are often the hardest to deal with. We all do things at times which are less than good, and in those times we literally need a mirror to reflect back at us the actual raw truth of the impact our of actions. 

The ‘grandmothers’ always seem to have this off pat; a lifetime of learning gives wisdom and perspective, time lessons the temper and the ego, parenthood allows them to love many without barriers and limits. Embodying the Wise Sage and the Crone. 

Their soul holds gravity; knowing, loving and accepting themselves, including the flaws, as well as they do others flaws. We automatically respect and heed their words in a different way. 

Of course; this goes with a caveat in bold. This does NOT give you a higher reason to be a door mat, a walk over or be self sacrificial. Remember in serving the higher good of all, that includes yourself. 

Whether you choose your filter to be the Sage or the Crone within you, filter by your Higher Self/ the Greater Good, or by the Grace of God is up to you. But holding that filter in your heart and occasionally reinforcing it, is important. 

OK, there are those among us who have no filter. I know many people like that. And I know see these people for their soul. I’m not talking about the argumentative types, always looking to throw their emotion out. I’m talking about the ones that see injustice and can’t keep their mouth shut; who react before they think. These are the ones who do live with so much love in their heart, that the messages don’t ever get filtered. 

Funnily enough these souls are the ones who work in the care industries, who are truly spiritual people, parents who take on the responsibility of others children, who volunteer at every corner. These are the ones who beat themselves up everytime they say something that hits someone’s core. And yes it gets them into trouble at work and with authority generally. God bless them as truly they do deliver messages from Spirit. If one of these people say something that gets to the quick of you, maybe you should listen no matter what your Ego feels about it . . .

I’ll quote comic wisdom till it comes out my ears; with great power, comes great responsibility. 

The power of truth, is something we all hold, we all possess and many fling out with no forethought.  And we have a responsibility to listen, to truly hear, as well as to give out. 

Again these comes down to balance, about truly living with love in your heart. 

If you don’t speak enough of your truth you’ll stunt your own growth as well as the truth of others. 

If you speak it without thinking about the implications, if you speak from your Ego, you’re throwing daggers with your words that will do nothing but injure. (note I don’t say frustration or anger, you’re allowed to be upset or frustrated with others, all aspects of anger, Ego is that place of total self bolster, both aggressive and passive aggressive). 

So saying what is needed, from a place of love, is the key to give you the balance you need in order to use your power wisely. 

So what does this mean for me personally?

I’ve gone through vast periods of my life where I’ve said no truths. Holding myself back only led to me feeling frustrated and stifled in life. Tonsils clearly out in my mid twenties for a reason. I felt great guilt for saying what I really felt. I learned that starting with the words ‘I’m not happy about that because . . .’ I was able to say what I needed with crying or completely having to loose my temper. 

Additionally I’ve give through periods of telling every poor bugger the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth (my mid teens; questioning the purity of the teachings of authority and God forbid if you were a mean girl poking me with a stick at school!). 

I’d like to think that I’ve kind of got the balance right; reflecting back with love were I need to and hitting the nail on the head with carefully chosen (OK channelled!) words when needed, drawing on the Grandmother within me. 

In giving readings to people it’s key, and people aren’t always in the right place to hear what they need to. Which still saddens me greatly; I’m sure an area I’ll get my head round in time!

Of course I’m very aware that I am opinionated, and that I do feel a strong need to express that opinion where I can. I truly hope that by doing it in a forum such as this, the right people will read it at the right time. Also in writing it, I hope it gives others the opportunity to read a couple of times, and digest, to get to the core of it for them. 

Funnily enough, finishing this off while the youngest has chosen Brave, watching the scene after the Queen and the Princess argue, having reasonable conversations with others (King Billy Connolly and a beautiful Shire horse), each reaching into the mind of the other and gaining understanding of the others perspective, the others reality, the others truth. 

Love as always 

Rachael

PS a friend gave me this, so I’ve added it for easy reference 🙂 I think it’s great.